Happy happy Monday! I hope you all had an amazing and restful weekend, and am super excited to recap with you tomorrow some of my Colorado backpack camping adventures! I know I’ll have lots of amazing pictures and stories to share, so you won’t be hearing the end of it for a little bit (lucky you! :)).
One of the things I’ve been thinking about lately failure, and what it truly means. I guess you could say I admitted to the biggest failure of my life earlier this year in going through a divorce, but I think in doing so, it’s kind of changed my perspective about what failure really means.
Typically we look at it as very black and white, probably because we are taught when we are kids that an F is bad and it means that we failed. It is unacceptable to do that. And we must do better the next time to pass.
If you ran in high school, whether it was track or cross country, if you didn’t advance to state, or on a different level, place in the meets that you ran, it often felt like a failure because you weren’t the best.
I used to be so hard on myself for failing; when things didn’t go the exact way that I planned or expected, it just felt like such a disaster and my Type A personality couldn’t stand it. Of course, I’ve learned to change my perspective on this a bit over the years.
Failure isn’t as black and white as we were taught when we were younger. It would be much easier if we could give ourselves grades on things, and move on from that, promising to study more or practice more so that the next time around, it was better.
Instead, life is full of twists and turns. One of my friends shared something interesting with me a few weeks ago when I was complaining about how life was so hard, and he said if it’s not hard, you aren’t doing it right.
Which is so true.
And I think you can add to that, if you aren’t failing, you aren’t doing it right.
Failure is a GOOD thing.
It sounds crazy, I know.
But if you aren’t trying new things, you aren’t failing.
If you aren’t failing, you aren’t growing.
If you aren’t growing, you aren’t learning.
If you aren’t learning, you aren’t being better than your yesterday.
If we call life an adventure, than don’t we need to fail to continue down that path? After all, adventure means that you are going on a journey into unknown territory… so if its filled with the unknowns, how can you do it perfectly right every single time?
So it sounds crazy, but yes, failure is a good thing. Failure shows that you are LIVING. That you are enjoying life, trying new things, making decisions (good and bad) and living a life that you should be proud of.
So the next time you feel like you’ve failed, change your perspective. Think about what you learned from the situation and how it’s made you a better person. And put one step in front of the other, and continue on your adventure in life.
Do you feel like failure is a GOOD thing? How do you usually deal with failure?
Would you say you are Type A or Type B personality?
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